21 Things To Do Before You Turn 21

As some of you know, I turn 21 at the end of this week (Friday, for those wondering!) I can’t believe how quickly my year as a 20-year-old has gone – it’s flown by!

Looking back though, I think I’ve definitely made the most of my year!

Supposedly, these are the 21 things you should do before turning 21:

1. Climb a mountain at sunrise

I haven’t done this yet, but plan to do some early hiking when I’m in America. So who knows, a photo of the sun rising over the grand canyon?

2. Dress up in costume and go to a theme park

I’ve been to a theme park this year, just not in costume. I went with my old colleagues from the nightclub I was a manager at. It was my leaving do and hilarious!

3. Attend the concert or music festival you’ve always dreamed of

I went to Bournemouth Sevens for the third year running with all of my best friends, and it was incredible! Lots of glitter and sparkles were involved!

4. Take a solo trip somewhere

This was me the day I drove up and moved into my flat in Manchester (obviously a McDonald’s stop was needed!)

 

I moved to Manchester by myself – does that count? Moving to Manchester has to be one of my favourite things about this year, as it’s brought me so many opportunities and friendships – for which I will be eternally grateful!

5. Play in the snow

I didn’t play in the snow. Instead, I full on decked myself and slipped on black ice – resulting in a bruised and slightly fractured coxis.

6. Bungy Jump or Skydive

I did a skydive for Bournemouth Hospital Charity and raised £580 for them! That was scary seeing as I was afraid of heights and flying (why I chose to do a skydive still confuses me!) I overcame that fear and jumped out of that plane (well, I was pushed, but I’m not pedantic!). It was terrifying but terrific fun at the same time, and I would do it all over again, 100%!

7. Go on a volunteer/mission trip

I haven’t volunteered abroad, but I’ve done my fair share of charity work. Doing pageants has brought to light my love of charity work, and I am still thinking about my next challenge, even if I am not doing pageants anymore!

8. Go skinny dipping

I haven’t done this yet, but might be able to squeeze it in into the last couple of days as a 20-year-old!

9. Take a spontaneous road trip without a final destination

I’ve taken various trips this year, but sadly all have had a final destination. The only time when we didn’t know where we were going was when I met a guy and just started walking and chatting together. We were walking just in one direction, then ended up sitting down, sharing a cookie dough and ice cream and talking about life and dreams! It was awesome. I’ve never spoken to that guy again sadly, as he was quite cool and very hippy (complete opposite of me).

10. Stay the night somewhere incredibly unique

 

I’ve gone to a couple of cool places this year, including the beautiful French town La Rochelle on holiday last summer! Gorgeous!

11. Go snorkelling or scuba diving

I haven’t done this seeing as I’m quite scared of the sea! But if I ever would do it, America would probably be the place! Stay tuned!

12. See the stars in all their glory

The amount of times I have just sat outside and looked at the stars is endless. I have always said, if I weren’t in the performing or creative industry, I would study the stars. I think they all beautiful balls of burning dust!

13. Swim underneath a waterfall

Once again, England is quite short in the waterfall sector, and even if I could swim under a waterfall, I probably wouldn’t.

14. Eat something super weird and exotic

I have eaten some different dishes this year that I wouldn’t usually go for, but sadly nothing strange and exotic!

15. Write a list of all the things in your life you are grateful for

  • Life
  • Family
  • Friends
  • Uni

16. Crowd Surf

Still yet to do this – can we get this arranged?

17. Have a picnic with an extraordinary view

Mmmmhhh, not too sure.

18. Stay up and party… All. Night. Long.

 

Definitely done this. Many times.

19. Live like a local in another community

I feel like a northerner now – does that count?

20. Watch the sunset over the ocean

So many times in some of my favourite spots in Bournemouth (favourite naturally being Urban Reef!)

21. Face your fears

I got myself a place at uni and actually went – I think that’s facing a fear!

Not too bad for a year that seems to have gone too quickly! Thinking ahead to what I can do

Why I started My blog (and how it’s changed my life!)

Many people ask me why I started my blog. “Don’t you have dyslexia?” “I thought you did acting, not writing.” “Why don’t you vlog?”

So many questions, and every time I say the same thing… Why not?

Why did I start my blog?

When I moved to Manchester, I wanted to do as much as I could and experience as much as I could. In the end, I was at uni or work during the day and then out at the theatre or a restaurant during the evenings. Some nights I was commentating of a basketball match while others involved a launch party of a bar. So many different things.

My friends back at home kept on saying to me, “Jess, you’re doing so many random things now, we can’t keep up!”

That’s when Jess’ Random World was born.

I wanted my friends and family at home to see what I was doing, and a blog seemed a perfect way! It would link with my uni work (for those of you who don’t know, I’m studying Multimedia Journalism at Manchester Metropolitan University at the moment) and give me a platform to tell the world about my life.

Ok, my writing style is not everyone’s cup of pumpkin spiced latte, but it’s still a way I can express myself. I love writing, regardless of the fact that I can tell the difference between bra and bar. I love the fact that only, you can pretty much say whatever you feel unless you’re in the royal family or high authority (but even then they seem to speak what they think).

I use my blog obviously for reviewing, but my lifestyle section allows me to journal my life and experiences. Just think, when I’m old and grey and still can’t tell my bras from my bars, I’m never going to remember everything that I have done. This blog allows me to have a memory jogger for the years to come.

I also love having a blog because it gives me something to do when I’m not at uni or work (but luckily my blog is becoming my work more and more 🙂 ) It keeps my brain going and thinking about different things, so that’s always a plus.

How has my blog changed my life?

Well, how long is a piece of string? Endless.

Since the start, my blog has been my baby, and to see it grow has been incredible! Going from strength to strength and developing the genres and categories have been very exciting.

I have become a more developed and rounded person since starting this blog – it’s honestly changed my life (including my dress sense!).

I am forever grateful for all the opportunities I am offered, and I know that I’m being offered them because of my hard work and determination to make my site and business a success!

I look back at everything I’ve done in the last couple of months, and it blows my mind! But, even though a blog is useful to look back on everything I’ve done, I’m always looking forward to the next opportunity and adventure, because who knows where that could lead!

Only time will tell.

PS How sassy is the photo of me singing with my name behind me? Love it!

Lots of love chickens,

J x

My Best and Worst Dates

I remember my first “proper date” – I met a guy from a dating site by the beach, walked awkwardly along the beach for 30 minutes and then sat down in a little cafe for a coffee. Never to see or speak to each other. Not a great start.

Sometimes, we have to learn from the bad experiences to have the good ones. What did I learn from that date? Sometimes we don’t have to do an activity or big romantic dinner to get to know each other on the first date. Sometimes just coffee is good too. Not too full on and intimidating, but still a reason to meet up.

I also learnt that maybe thinking about the fact that I would be walking a reasonable distance and wear better shoes – stilettos are never sensible on a beach promenade.

If there’s one thing that I love better than food, it’s being taken on a date to eat food. Nothing beats a romantic meal for two and being wined and dine. Just picture it, he is sat across from you, holding your hand, looking deeply into your eyes as he feeds you cheesecake!! Perfection!

But sadly, not all food dates have gone as smoothly.

One time, I dated this guy who sat opposite from me (not a problem, we could do a bit of foot fun 😉 ) He started by looking directly into my eyes, which at first I thought was romantic (eye contact, check!). But then it got weird. He didn’t stop looking at me. Even when he was eating his chilli squid, he was still staring at me. Kind of like a ninja, really.

Now I’m quite a messy eater as it is, and I need to regularly wipe my face due to the worry that sauce is splattered across it without even realising, I was eating noodles and a sloppy sauce, sadly, and trying to be as lady like as possible – but failing. I don’t know why he didn’t just run and never look back, as I think I must have looked like Godzilla, with curry sauce flying everywhere!

But no, he merely told me I had beautiful eyes and he “was getting lost in them” – this was when alarm bells went off, and I got really creeped out. Let’s just say, I never spoke or interacted with that guy again!

But most importantly, what did I learn? Do not order noodles and curry sauce. If the guys holds your hand and doesn’t let go, finish your meal (because on a first date he pays, so eat that free food girl!) and then politely say no to going for a drink after.

You could make up an excuse saying that you’ve got work early the next morning, or if you are feeling ballsy, just let him know that you aren’t interested that way. Say thank you and goodnight, go home, grab a bottle of wine and some ice cream and chill out with a face mask (my ideal night to be honest!)

Now I’m not saying that I’ve never had good dates. I have had lovely ones.

The guy I’m dating at the moment is a chef and loves food as much as I do, so we are always out for food and brunch (I know, a man who loves brunch as much as a middle-class white girl, get in!) And it’s our love of food that keeps me going out with him and the conversation interesting.

Another great date I went on was where he took me for ice cream (I guess you’ve realised I love ice cream and food by now!) We shared a cookie dough and ice cream dessert, and just spoke about our lives. I mean, we didn’t even date again, but I now know a lot about what car engine I need to get in the future.

Just re-reading this post, it’s a bit rambly and weird, but I thought it’s a bit of fun and if you can relate to anything here, please let me know and send me your best and worst date experiences!

Have a great Sunday guys and gals,

Lots of love chickens

J x

How to I motivate myself on my “off” and low days

As crazy as it sounds, I do have low and “off” days, where I just want to stay in my PJs, eat a whole tub of Aldi’s Salted Caramel and Pecan ice cream (if you haven’t tried it, you need to!) and binge on Made In Chelsea. Trust me; I’m human. I do it too.

But there are times when, even though I’m having those thoughts mentioned above, that I need to buck my ideas up, get dressed and get on with the day.

On these days, this is how I motivate myself to get up and get stuff done:

I have a cup of coffee

On days I’m getting up to go to work, I always have a cup of coffee to wake me up and get me going! So if it’s a day where I’m feeling a bit lacklustre, I make myself an even stronger cup of joe and wack a bit of sugar in there to give me an instant pick me up!

I have a shower.

As simple as this is, it takes a bit of effort to wash your hair (rather than just roll out of bed and spray a bit of dry shampoo in your barnet). I have a lovely citrusy and fresh shower gel that wakes me up every time I use it – it’s so energising and smells lush!

I put my face on

I don’t wear makeup every day, but when I’m feeling a little bit low or need some motivation, I try and attempt a smokey eye look and that all-important contour (I’m still learning). Walking out the house with an attempt at a winged eyeliner gives me a little bit more confidence (until I look in a mirror and realise I have a tango look going on)

I actually leave the house

If I’m feeling low and need motivation, I get out of my flat. I live in halls at the moment, and there’s only so much I can take of a cramped little flat. If I need a bit of motivation to do work, to do something on my day off or just to feel better, I go out and have a walk. Ok, I live in Manchester, so it’s usually raining, but so be it! Getting out the house, some fresh air into your lungs and your legs moving can really change your focus and headspace! Jump on the bus and go somewhere new – a new park, a new town and do a bit of shopping! Just get out of the house!

Call your family

I’m a big daddy’s girl and very close to my family, so when I moved here, I knew I was going to miss them a lot. If I’m ever feeling down, my family are only a phone call away. It’s a simple thing to so, but it could even make the person on the other end of the phone’s day too. Call a friend you’ve lost touch with. Call your nan! Anyone. It will make you feel a bit better.

That’s it. My tips to motivate your down or “low” days. Stop thinking negative thoughts, be grateful for what is in front of you and smile.

You got this queen.

Lots of love chickens

J x

My Favourite Time Saving Hack

Anyone who knows me knows I’m a busy, busy person. If I’m not out at work, travelling, at the theatre or uni, you can guarantee I’ll be doing something else. Literally, no time.

I am one of those people that likes to be in bed early and up early, out the door and getting on with my day. Once I figured out how I could do this and got my routine into place, I have never looked back.

I have one main hack that makes my life a bit more organised and more comfortable to manage every day, and I thought I’d share it with you:

I have a capsule wardrobe

Before I had a capsule wardrobe, I always wanted to have one but never knew where to start. Then I found Classy Yet Trendy. Author and blogger Leanne literally saved my life!

She creates E-Books for different styles, from stay-at-home mums to workwear – she’s done all the thinking for you! After completing the little test to see which style would suit my lifestyle, I got French Minimalism.

I downloaded the e-book for the season I was in and had a look what I already had in my wardrobe and what I needed to invest in. Surprisingly, I had quite a lot in my current messy closet and only had to get a couple of other pieces of clothing and accessories to complete my capsule.

Then my life changed. I had a wardrobe of 23 pieces (including clothes, bags, accessories and shoes) and Leanne had created 100 outfits for me! I didn’t have to worry about what I was going to wear that day and if it was going to go together – it was all worried about for me previously!

Since that day, I have bought the following seasons and now got over 400 outfits planned for me. Plus, the items transfer from season to season, and I only needed to get a couple of extra pieces to complete each season’s capsule.

This saves me so much time in the morning, and the outfits are classy, trendy and great if I need to go to an event in the evening after work or going out as they are stylish and fit my lifestyle!

If you are looking for a quick and helpful tip and hack to save time worrying in the morning, I suggest a capsule wardrobe with interchangeable pieces that go with each other! Plus, if you download one of Leanne’s e-book’s she’s compiled all the outfits for you! Stress-free life hack!

Lots of love chickens

J x